1 Samuel 23:17

And he said unto him, Fear not: for the hand of Saul my father shall not find thee; and thou shalt be king over Israel, and I shall be next unto thee; and that also Saul my father knoweth.

In a lifetime we will have many acquaintances, but few real friends. Real friends are rare. Jonathan is an example of what it means to be a true friend. There are some interesting insights in Jonathan’s relationship to David and some good advice that we would do well to heed concerning friendship.

  • A true friend is LOVING (1 Sam.18:1-4, 19:1-5)
  • A true friend is LOYAL (1 Sam.20:1-23)
  • A true friend is ENCOURAGING (1 Sam.23:16-17)

If the friends we have do not possess the qualities of a true friend than we would be better off without them. There are a number of reasons why this is true. They can be: Treacherous (Mt.26:48-50), Unfaithful (Job 19:14-19), False (2 Sam.16:16-23), Worldly (James 4:4), Entice us into sin (Deut.13:6-8), and Untrustworthy (Ps.41:9).

Look for the marks of true friendship when looking for friends. There is more at stake than companionship. Ask yourself, “Does this friendship encourage me to be more like Christ or is it drawing me away from God’s will for my life?”